The Seven Best Reasons NOT To Use A Friend As Your Reference Checker

Does this scenario sound familiar?  In your search for new employment, you’ve done your homework in refining your resume and presentation skills and have perhaps even “aced” an interview (or two) in spades.  A prospective job offer is within reach; one of the last hurdles remaining, the reference checking process.

Realizing that your career may rest in a reference’s hands, you consider using a friend (or relative) – posing as a potential employer – to see what a reference will say about you to a prospective employer.  While this tactic may be tempting, there are a number of reasons why this is a bad idea:

  1. Most friends, however well intended, are not reference checking professionals. They may act in an unprofessional manner, ask inappropriate or illegal questions, or allow something to slip that could compromise your position.
  2. Some states impose limitations or restrictions on impersonation. A good reference-checking enterprise knows the legal limitations of reference checking and does not cross those lines.
  3. Your reference may convey subtle verbal nuances that a friend may not pick up on. Intonation, wording, and hesitations in responses can be “red flags” to a professional reference checker that may not be picked up by an unseasoned ear.
  4. A reference checked by a friend is not legally supportable.  If a friend calls and confirms that your reference is providing career-damaging input, you will have no recourse to use this hearsay report for legal or remedial action.  A professional reference checking company provides a legally supportable report and may even offer services to help you neutralize a bad reference.
  5. A friend might not answer your reference’s return call in a professional manner. Your friend might not be in a position to take a reference’s return call, if it is necessary. There is also the possibility that someone else would take a return call instead of your friend. Also, a suspicious reference might check their Caller ID and perceive what you are up to – not a situation your want with your all-important reference.
  6. A friend might “sugar coat” negative information about you. It’s hard to be the bearer of bad news, especially to a friend who may not be receptive to hearing some really unflattering information.
  7. If suspicious of the interviewer, a formerly good reference may become a bad one. If your reference suspects they are being manipulated, you could lose their trust and willingness to act as a favorable future reference.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking a casual call from a friend takes the place of a check by a professional reference checking organization such as Allison & Taylor, who confirm that approximately 50% of all reference checks they conduct reveal negative information.  Good references are one of your greatest assets when looking for a job, and employers take them very seriously.  Make sure yours measure up.

Top 5 Reasons You Should Have Your References Checked

  1. The company’s comment policy may not be what they think it is.  A countless number of our clients confidently say, “They won’t tell you anything, it’s against policy.”  Many people assume that an employer can’t or won’t say anything, and are unpleasantly surprised to find out this is not the case.  Employers frequently say unflattering things about former employees.
  2. Their reference may not be saying what they expect.  A lukewarm reference can be just as damaging as a negative one.   If your reference is anything less than glowing, they are damaging your chances of landing that job, not helping it.  They need to know that that person is doing everything possible to make a positive impression for them.  Otherwise, it’s time to rethink their references.
  3. Their information may not match the HR records.  In many instances, we find that the employer has different employment dates, position title, or supervisor listed that what the employee has presented.  This type of discrepancy may suggest that they are being less than truthful about their former position’s title or responsibilities.
  4. They may have been omitted from the HR records entirely.  This happens more often than people might think, especially in the case of mergers, where not all records make the transfer into a new system.  It’s also frequently the case with the self-employed; many companies do not hold records for a contractor in their HR system.  It’s not a good thing when an employer calls and is told that there is no record of someone ever having worked for their company.
  5. Their reference contact may no longer work for the company.  Many job-seekers make the mistake of not staying in close contact with the person they intend to use for a reference.  Your readers need to be sure that that person is still there to respond to inquiries.  If the reference is no longer there, a reference checker may be shuffled though the system and end up with someone who won’t cast them in such a positive light.

Throughout Allison & Taylor’s 30 years as a reference checking and reference consulting company, we have heard it all… discrimination in many forms, references explaining the relationships / sleeping habits of former employees, HR Managers refusing to comment until the “litigation is complete” and Board Members who say “Are you sure he listed me as a reference?”

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